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Issue #388 \u2013 Monday, September 4th, 2023<\/strong><\/p>\n

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You hear it all the time:\u201cJust think positive and everything will work out!\u201d<\/em>It seems that everyone favors the power of positive thinking\u2026<\/strong>…which is why I did a double-take<\/em> when I came across this old essay from Bill that he wrote over ten years ago!This essay is so good that it might be even MORE relevant today!<\/strong>You see, Bill found the secret to harnessing the power of negative thinking.<\/strong>And after I read through Bill\u2019s unique take… \u2026I knew I had to share it with you this week.<\/strong>So today, please enjoy this essay from the late, great, Bill Harris himself.Bill will teach you all about how negative thinking is a dangerous thing – but that there is a way<\/em> to get a positive result out of it.Oh, and since Bill wrote this essay over a decade ago, we\u2019ve made some minor updates to some of the numbers towards the end of the essay.I know you\u2019re going to love this!Cheers,<\/p>\n

<\/span>MaryEllen Tribby<\/span><\/strong>Centerpointe CEO<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

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Negative Thinking Is the Key to Happiness<\/span><\/strong><\/h1>\n

By Bill Harris<\/strong><\/p>\n

I know, I know. You think I\u2019ve lost my marbles. Everyone knows that POSITIVE thinking is the key to happiness.But as Dr. Phil says, \u201cHow\u2019s that working for ya?\u201d In my thirty years as a personal growth teacher, I\u2019ve taught hundreds of thousands of students<\/strong> to focus on what they want.Some of them report positive benefits.Many, however, don\u2019t. And, few report fundamental, life-changing shifts<\/strong>. So let me ask you:<\/p>\n

Since you learned that the solution to life\u2019s problems is to \u201cthink positive,\u201d are you happy? Is your life just the way you want it to be?C\u2019mon. Tell the truth. Like everyone else, sometimes you get what you want and sometimes you don\u2019t.<\/strong>Sometimes you feel happy, and sometimes you feel decidedly less-than-happy.What\u2019s going on here? Is the popular positive thinking, put-it-out-to-the-universe school of thought wrong?<\/p>\n

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Is \u201cPositive Thinking\u201d Wrong?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Yes. And, no.Yes, what you focus on hugely affects your life. It generates how you feel in each moment<\/strong>. It generates your behavior\u2026<\/strong>It determines which people and situations you attract or are attracted to<\/strong>. And, it determines the meaning you assign<\/strong> to what happens.Doesn\u2019t this include pretty much everything in your life? What you focus on is very important.<\/strong>Here\u2019s the problem, though. Nearly all your focusing happens unconsciously, outside your awareness. Your mind automatically focuses in a way you learned when you were a child. The major internal activity that shapes your life, because it happens unconsciously, isn\u2019t a choice!<\/strong>Okay, Bill, but how does that make negative thinking the key to happiness?<\/em>Patience, Grasshopper.Why do some people experience more bad feelings and more of what they don\u2019t want than others? Some say it\u2019s external circumstances, or just bad luck.And though external circumstances play a role, considerable evidence suggests that most of what you feel, how you behave\u2026…and which people and situations you attract or become attracted to\u2014and all of how you respond to these things\u2014is the result of something you do inside your mind.<\/strong>How you feel, for instance, is strongly affected by the internal representations <\/strong>you make\u2014mostly internal pictures and internal dialog.<\/p>\n

Focusing on the Right Things<\/strong><\/p>\n

Focusing, in fact, means making internal representations, which then generate how you feel, how you behave, etc.When you focus on something you want, you feel good; when you focus on something you don\u2019t want, you feel bad. Because this happens almost entirely outside your awareness<\/strong>, how you do it isn\u2019t a choice.When you feel bad, you behave in a certain way, or encounter the same problem people or negative outcomes over and over, your unconscious focus is generating it. <\/strong>Not on purpose, and not consciously, but still, it\u2019s coming from something in you.<\/strong>Since the consequences are negative, why do people focus on what they don\u2019t want? Traumatic childhood experiences create a belief that the world is a dangerous place, or at least a potentially dangerous place. To avoid that danger, whatever it is, we think we have to watch out for it<\/strong>\u2014in other words, focus on what we don\u2019t want.Focusing on what you don\u2019t want doesn\u2019t just make you feel bad. In addition, your mind sees it as an instruction to attract or create more of it.<\/strong> This causes you to act in certain ways, and to attract or be attracted to people and situations that help make it happen<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Creating Shadows<\/strong><\/p>\n

All of this seems to contradict my statement that negative thinking is the key to happiness. Before I tell you why that\u2019s true, let\u2019s look at another type of negative thinking.You learned good and bad, positive and negative, from your parents.<\/strong> In one way or another they said, \u201cTo be okay in our eyes, don\u2019t do this. This is bad. Instead, do this. This is good.\u201dThe more they used negative reinforcement, the more strongly you felt the need to avoid what they didn\u2019t approve of:<\/p>\n

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• Don\u2019t trust anyone<\/li>\n
• Don\u2019t think for yourself<\/li>\n
• Don\u2019t show any weakness<\/li>\n
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  …and so on.These negative injunctions become shadows<\/strong>\u2014parts of being human we\u2019ve disowned or repressed. When we see these qualities in others, we\u2019re triggered emotionally. Ironically, the more we repress these qualities the more we attract people who have them<\/strong>, even though that\u2019s the last thing we want. In fact, these people seem to be everywhere, and they upset us emotionally whenever we see them.Though we try to repress them, we express these shadows anyway<\/strong>, but in covert and dysfunctional ways.<\/p>\n

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  If you\u2019ve disowned anger, you\u2019ll express it anyway, but in an unhealthy and immature way<\/strong>. Others will see your anger, but you won\u2019t. You\u2019ll also attract other angry people, who will really bother you.\u00a0In fact, negative feelings, people, and situations that keep happening to you are directly related to your unconscious shadows. Shadows are just another way we focus on what we don\u2019t want.<\/strong><\/p>\n

  The Real Power of Negative Thinking<\/strong><\/p>\n

  So why is negative thinking, as unlikely as it sounds, the key to happiness?<\/strong>Here\u2019s why:First, a fundamental principle about life:You can only do what doesn\u2019t serve you if you do it unconsciously.<\/strong>Focusing on what you don\u2019t want creates bad feelings and attracts more of what you don\u2019t want. Repressing qualities you think are bad or wrong causes you to express them anyway\u2026…but in a covert and immature way\u2014and, to attract people with these qualities, who trigger you emotionally.Obviously this doesn\u2019t serve you.<\/strong> Despite the negative consequences, most people will keep doing this for their entire life\u2014as long as they do it outside their awareness.Do it with awareness, though, and you can\u2019t keep doing it.<\/strong>In fact, focusing on what you don\u2019t want or disowning what you think is negative creates harmful results only when done unconsciously. Do the same thing with awareness and you\u2019ll clearly see how you create the bad feelings<\/strong>, the less-than-resourceful behaviors, and your attraction to people and situations you don\u2019t want in your life.And, you\u2019ll stop doing it, unless for some reason it serves you. If it doesn\u2019t you\u2019ll drop it like a hot rock.<\/strong>As counter-intuitive as it might seem, negative thinking, when done with awareness, eliminates itself<\/strong>\u2014and, the negative outcomes! You just can\u2019t keep doing what isn\u2019t resourceful once you see how you\u2019re doing it. In fact, watching your mind create your life is one of the most fascinating things you\u2019ll ever do. <\/strong>As you watch, whatever doesn\u2019t serve you becomes impossible to keep doing.<\/p>\n

  Awareness Is the Secret Ingredient<\/strong><\/p>\n

  How do you become aware enough to observe yourself<\/strong> in this way?The most effective way is meditation. Meditation creates awareness, and then awareness creates choice.<\/strong> Unfortunately, meditation can be difficult, and results can take years.[Over thirty] years ago, however, Centerpointe Research Institute invented a way to create the brain wave patterns of deep meditation easily and effortlessly\u2026<\/strong>… using sophisticated audio technology called Holosync\u00ae, delivered through stereo headphones. This high-tech method allows anyone to dramatically and quickly increase their awareness. Today, [over] two million people in 193 countries have used it to increase their awareness, lower their stress level, improve their mental clarity, and to become more aware.Awareness gives you choice. Once you have choice, you won\u2019t choose what creates suffering for you.<\/strong>So go ahead. Think negatively. Just make sure you do it with awareness.<\/p>\n

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